She was right.\u00a0 Sienna might have been eating more, but she was not happy there and neither was I.\u00a0 So I promised to keep meals shorter – to no more than 40 minutes.<\/p>\n
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<\/h3>\nI know what you’re thinking…<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\nFORTY MINUTES!<\/p>\n
I can’t even get my child to sit for FIVE minutes.<\/p>\n
Trust me – I had no interest in spending most of my time at the dinner table.\u00a0 I literally had to push Sienna into her highchair against her will.\u00a0 It was a horrible feeling.<\/p>\n
But my little girl HAD TO EAT.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\nShe was tiny, skinny, and shorter than virtually every other child her age.\u00a0 I was terrified she would continue to lose weight, and fall short on the nutrients that were so critical in these early years.<\/p>\n
So if it meant being on spending my day with a spoon in my hand, I was going to do it for her.<\/p>\n
Sitting at the table (and staying there) is something every parent wants.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\nMaybe not for 90 minutes, but surely for more than 90 seconds!<\/p>\n
And it’s one of the most common questions I get on my Free “Picky Eater No More” Webinar.<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
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Let me answer your questions…<\/p>\n
What is a typical meal time length for a child?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\nThe average meal is around 30 to 40 minutes.<\/p>\n
The average snack is around 15 to 20 minutes.<\/p>\n
However, this doesn’t mean your child MUST stay at the table for this period of time.\u00a0 It’s a guideline.\u00a0 And toddlers would be expected to sit for closer to 10 minutes (assuming all of the other foundational elements<\/a> have been covered off).<\/p>\n <\/p>\n
When should they stay seated?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\nOf course we try to instil better mealtime behaviours at home so our children will stay seated for longer periods when out of the home – when visiting friends\/family…or at a restaurant, etc.\u00a0 Because it’s the polite thing to do.\u00a0 But I’m the first to say that it’s tough with the younger ones.<\/p>\n
Here’s why..<\/p>\n
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Why won’t my child stay seated?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\nA couple reasons:<\/p>\n
(1) They aren’t hungry:<\/strong>\u00a0 If your child is anxious to get away from the table they likely aren’t hungry (assuming there is something on the table that they like to eat).\u00a0 Yet it is still important that they learn to sit for a few minutes, even if they don’t want to eat.\u00a0 Mealtimes aren’t just about the eating – the social time with family has long-term benefits.\u00a0 And it’s a key opportunity for getting exposure to new foods (even if they don’t eat them tonight).<\/p>\n(2) They don’t like what is being served<\/strong>\u00a0: This is where we fall back into bad habits of offering something we KNOW they will eat – a favourite food.\u00a0 But that doesn’t help us for the long term as they come to expect favourites, or else…they just won’t sit.\u00a0 Also we don’t always get our fave foods in life.\u00a0 Grandma might be serving a stew they dislike, or the restaurant doesn’t have pizza, or the playdate snacks are limited to new foods.\u00a0 Life isn’t fair so we can help show them what to expect starting at home by offering non-favourites often.<\/p>\n(3) They need to move:<\/strong>\u00a0 The average child sits for approx 4.5 hours a day<\/a>\u00a0yet children are built to move…often.\u00a0 It’s important to remember that children need to move far more than adults do.\u00a0 So if they’ve been sitting at school or daycare or circle time for longer than necessary, they may have a hard time staying put.<\/p>\n(4) They need sensory input:<\/strong>\u00a0 Some children have what’s called Sensory Processing Disorder which according to WebMD “...is\u00a0a condition in which the brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the senses.<\/em>”\u00a0 Here are some examples of behaviours associated with SPD.<\/a>\u00a0 \u00a0One of the common sensory challenges is tactile defensiveness – which is when the texture\/feeling of a food is more than a child can handle.\u00a0 More on this here from Autism Parenting Magazine.<\/a><\/p>\nLemon Lime Adventures<\/em> explains it simply:<\/p>\nYour child\u2019s\u00a0proprioceptive system<\/strong>\u00a0is asking for pressure, asking for input, asking for MORE to counter the other input their body is receiving.<\/p>\nYour child\u2019s\u00a0vestibular system<\/strong>\u00a0is seeking out movement in the form of spinning, wiggling, and possibly even turning upside down as a way to regulate everything around them.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n <\/p>\n
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So what should you do to help your child sit still longer?<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n <\/p>\n
(1) Remind yourself that they are not giving you a hard time.\u00a0<\/strong> They may just be having a hard time with sitting still.<\/p>\n(2) Let them move!\u00a0<\/strong> Instead of saying “Stay seated”<\/em> or “Stop wiggling”<\/em>.\u00a0 Say this:\u00a0 “Looks like we need to get the wiggles out! Let’s stand up and dance, wiggle, jump, etc.”<\/em><\/p>\n(3) Try to see the positive.\u00a0<\/strong> With all the new research<\/a> telling us that sitting is worse than smoking, take some comfort in the fact that your child is a mover!<\/p>\n(4) Make meals entertaining.<\/strong>\u00a0 I’m not recommending the iPad or toys, don’t worry!\u00a0 Instead, use a tools that promotes healthy conversation, food exploration and fun like the Superpower Foods Placemat<\/a>.\u00a0 Because we know that the more your child has positive interactions to a food, the more likely it is they will eat it.<\/p>\n(5) Ensure they are in a stable booster or high-chair.\u00a0<\/strong> Feeling insecure in their chair can be a distraction.\u00a0 \u00a0It’s best to have their feet planted using a high chair like these ones with a movable foot rest.<\/a><\/p>\n(6) Set expectations before the meal.\u00a0<\/strong> Talk to your kids about the mealtime boundaries\u00a0and let them know that it\u2019s important to come to the table (even if they choose not eat), and that food will not be offered again until the following meal or scheduled snack.\u00a0 Let them know that if they leave the table their next meal or snack will be in X hours.\u00a0 So there are no surprises.<\/p>\nPhew.\u00a0 We covered a lot there!<\/p>\n
Thanks for your patience as we broke down the why and how of mealtimes as it relates to keeping their little bums in chairs.<\/p>\n
If you still feel stuck don’t hesitate to reach out and book a complimentary 20-minute consult here<\/a>.\u00a0 There is a solution. We just need to find the right one for you and your family.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n
FORTY MINUTES!<\/p>\n
I can’t even get my child to sit for FIVE minutes.<\/p>\n
Trust me – I had no interest in spending most of my time at the dinner table.\u00a0 I literally had to push Sienna into her highchair against her will.\u00a0 It was a horrible feeling.<\/p>\n
But my little girl HAD TO EAT.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n She was tiny, skinny, and shorter than virtually every other child her age.\u00a0 I was terrified she would continue to lose weight, and fall short on the nutrients that were so critical in these early years.<\/p>\n So if it meant being on spending my day with a spoon in my hand, I was going to do it for her.<\/p>\n Sitting at the table (and staying there) is something every parent wants.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Maybe not for 90 minutes, but surely for more than 90 seconds!<\/p>\n And it’s one of the most common questions I get on my Free “Picky Eater No More” Webinar.<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Let me answer your questions…<\/p>\n The average meal is around 30 to 40 minutes.<\/p>\n The average snack is around 15 to 20 minutes.<\/p>\n However, this doesn’t mean your child MUST stay at the table for this period of time.\u00a0 It’s a guideline.\u00a0 And toddlers would be expected to sit for closer to 10 minutes (assuming all of the other foundational elements<\/a> have been covered off).<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Of course we try to instil better mealtime behaviours at home so our children will stay seated for longer periods when out of the home – when visiting friends\/family…or at a restaurant, etc.\u00a0 Because it’s the polite thing to do.\u00a0 But I’m the first to say that it’s tough with the younger ones.<\/p>\n Here’s why..<\/p>\n <\/p>\n A couple reasons:<\/p>\n (1) They aren’t hungry:<\/strong>\u00a0 If your child is anxious to get away from the table they likely aren’t hungry (assuming there is something on the table that they like to eat).\u00a0 Yet it is still important that they learn to sit for a few minutes, even if they don’t want to eat.\u00a0 Mealtimes aren’t just about the eating – the social time with family has long-term benefits.\u00a0 And it’s a key opportunity for getting exposure to new foods (even if they don’t eat them tonight).<\/p>\n (2) They don’t like what is being served<\/strong>\u00a0: This is where we fall back into bad habits of offering something we KNOW they will eat – a favourite food.\u00a0 But that doesn’t help us for the long term as they come to expect favourites, or else…they just won’t sit.\u00a0 Also we don’t always get our fave foods in life.\u00a0 Grandma might be serving a stew they dislike, or the restaurant doesn’t have pizza, or the playdate snacks are limited to new foods.\u00a0 Life isn’t fair so we can help show them what to expect starting at home by offering non-favourites often.<\/p>\n (3) They need to move:<\/strong>\u00a0 The average child sits for approx 4.5 hours a day<\/a>\u00a0yet children are built to move…often.\u00a0 It’s important to remember that children need to move far more than adults do.\u00a0 So if they’ve been sitting at school or daycare or circle time for longer than necessary, they may have a hard time staying put.<\/p>\n (4) They need sensory input:<\/strong>\u00a0 Some children have what’s called Sensory Processing Disorder which according to WebMD “...is\u00a0a condition in which the brain has trouble receiving and responding to information that comes in through the senses.<\/em>”\u00a0 Here are some examples of behaviours associated with SPD.<\/a>\u00a0 \u00a0One of the common sensory challenges is tactile defensiveness – which is when the texture\/feeling of a food is more than a child can handle.\u00a0 More on this here from Autism Parenting Magazine.<\/a><\/p>\n Lemon Lime Adventures<\/em> explains it simply:<\/p>\n Your child\u2019s\u00a0proprioceptive system<\/strong>\u00a0is asking for pressure, asking for input, asking for MORE to counter the other input their body is receiving.<\/p>\n Your child\u2019s\u00a0vestibular system<\/strong>\u00a0is seeking out movement in the form of spinning, wiggling, and possibly even turning upside down as a way to regulate everything around them.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n (1) Remind yourself that they are not giving you a hard time.\u00a0<\/strong> They may just be having a hard time with sitting still.<\/p>\n (2) Let them move!\u00a0<\/strong> Instead of saying “Stay seated”<\/em> or “Stop wiggling”<\/em>.\u00a0 Say this:\u00a0 “Looks like we need to get the wiggles out! Let’s stand up and dance, wiggle, jump, etc.”<\/em><\/p>\n (3) Try to see the positive.\u00a0<\/strong> With all the new research<\/a> telling us that sitting is worse than smoking, take some comfort in the fact that your child is a mover!<\/p>\n (4) Make meals entertaining.<\/strong>\u00a0 I’m not recommending the iPad or toys, don’t worry!\u00a0 Instead, use a tools that promotes healthy conversation, food exploration and fun like the Superpower Foods Placemat<\/a>.\u00a0 Because we know that the more your child has positive interactions to a food, the more likely it is they will eat it.<\/p>\n (5) Ensure they are in a stable booster or high-chair.\u00a0<\/strong> Feeling insecure in their chair can be a distraction.\u00a0 \u00a0It’s best to have their feet planted using a high chair like these ones with a movable foot rest.<\/a><\/p>\n (6) Set expectations before the meal.\u00a0<\/strong> Talk to your kids about the mealtime boundaries\u00a0and let them know that it\u2019s important to come to the table (even if they choose not eat), and that food will not be offered again until the following meal or scheduled snack.\u00a0 Let them know that if they leave the table their next meal or snack will be in X hours.\u00a0 So there are no surprises.<\/p>\n Phew.\u00a0 We covered a lot there!<\/p>\n Thanks for your patience as we broke down the why and how of mealtimes as it relates to keeping their little bums in chairs.<\/p>\n If you still feel stuck don’t hesitate to reach out and book a complimentary 20-minute consult here<\/a>.\u00a0 There is a solution. We just need to find the right one for you and your family.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\nWhat is a typical meal time length for a child?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
When should they stay seated?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
Why won’t my child stay seated?<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
<\/a><\/p>\nSo what should you do to help your child sit still longer?<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n
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